I know that most of my articles are practical techniques, but the real reason why Mom Creative Blogger was born is deeper than what you think. When I became a mother, I went through a lot of negative experiences with the world around me. I was feeling behind on a lot of things.

How it started

Things were going badly in my life; I wasn’t working anymore because of the pandemic, my relationship with my mother-in-law was strained, and she was trying to break my relationship with the father of my child, and I had several financial and administrative problems. I was 28 or 29 years old, and I remember that period of my life as if it were yesterday. My landlord even almost kicked me out. There’s much more to the hardships I went through, but that’s what made me want to write.

And then, something happened.

I started thinking about all the moms who were also going through tough times…I’ve always loved writing, and I’ve always been this empathic gal. I used to do freelance work on Fiverr, but I wanted to give people hope. That’s what drives me

Today, as I scrolled through Instagram, I came across several reels from mothers sharing their lived realities. Some spoke about being the default parent. Others talked about putting their careers on pause. Others shared how they remain in relationships where they are not fulfilled, for the sake of their children.

I am not blaming men, nor women who do not have children. What I am calling out is a society that can be deeply unkind toward mothers. There, I said it.

I often feel that mothers are not allowed to be weak, that we are expected to be strong at all times, no matter the cost. There are also social injustices, such as the motherhood penalty, which I will address another time. The purpose of this article is simply to help mothers feel a little less alone and a little better.

People’s negative opinions don’t define you:

Do you remember the woman you were before having children? I do. I remember being slim, independent, going to school, and working. The point is that even if you have children, you are still that woman. Yes, even if you gained a couple of pounds. The difference is that you now carry additional responsibilities, including caring for other human beings who come from you, which is something deeply beautiful.

You are stronger now than you were before. You know yourself better than anyone else. So do not let negative opinions define your current worth.

Letting go of people who drift away:

I’ve lost many friends when I became a mother. Why? Because I no longer had the same amount of time for them, and it frustrated a lot of them. But true friends do not abandon you because you become a mother.

In time, you will form new friendships. I made new mom friends, and I also reconnected with friends who already had children. Sometimes it is painful, but when priorities change, we do lose people. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go.

Surround yourself with positive people

As I mentioned earlier, I lost many friends for painful reasons, but I also found healthy and positive people who helped lift me back up.

I truly lost many friendships when I became a mom. I admit that losing so many friendships made me feel miserable for a while. What I eventually did was start making new mom friends and reconnect with other friends who were also mothers.

I can honestly tell you that when you surround yourself with supportive people and take the time to see them, you start to feel better. If I could give one piece of advice, it would be this: try not to stay isolated at home. Getting out, even for small moments, can make a big difference.

4) Find a Hobby You’re Passionate About:

Find something you truly enjoy doing, whether it’s dancing, painting, singing, or any other activity that excites you. What is something you’ve always wanted to try but never dared to do?

Look for something that makes your soul feel alive and helps you clear your mind. For me, that passion turned out to be writing and blogging. I had always wanted to start a blog, but because of time and responsibilities, I didn’t begin until four years after becoming a mom.

Do you have a passion or a natural talent? I’m sure there is at least one thing you’re good at that has nothing to do with motherhood that you could explore.

The reason I talk about this is that I’ve noticed that many mothers face the same challenge. Many of us want to work from home so we can be present for our children, but once we become moms, life can quickly become more complicated.

Another option is to use your own experience or expertise to connect with other women. There are many possibilities out there. Nothing is impossible. I’ve learned that I needed to get out of my comfort zone and to do the things that were scaring me the most.

We all have our stories; my life is not 100% where I wish it could be, but at least it’s better than it was.

Do you also have a story that you would like to share?

If you’re feeling isolated in this journey, remember you’re not alone. There’s a whole community of moms figuring this out alongside you. Here at Mom Creative Blogger, we’re dedicated to keeping it real about the messy parts of motherhood. Whether you need printables to help with routines, recipes for busy nights, or just a place to read about someone else’s burnout and survival, we’ve got you covered.

Your child won’t remember every time you got the discipline perfect. They will remember how you made them feel. They’ll remember that you were there, that you listened, and that you loved them through the tantrums. That’s the legacy that actually matters.

Take a breath. You’ve got this. And if you need a refresher, come back to this list. We’re all learning as we go.